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[quote=thekahuna]Hello JP, NIce looking SC. I am in the process of getting one on the water as well.

The age old wife/sailing scenario. I am sure all of us have been in your spot at one point, myself included. I found out very quickly that though my wife enjoyed the idea of sailing,but she did not like the realities associated with changing wind & sea conditions; and it sometimes frightened her how the attitude of the boat changed as a result. The fact is sailboats break, sometimes catastrophically, and we as sailors accpet that and prepare for it. When the boat heeled more than she was comfortable with, she complained. Too fast (4ksb),she complained. Too hot & slow, she complained. It just became unenjoyable for me to do single hand the boat and listen to her at the same time.

The last time she and I were on our sailboat (monohull) together I ended up pulling into a very remote harbor so she could be picked up and taken home because getting to our destination was taking far too long for her; and it was +90 degrees and 2 knots of breeze. Believe it or not there were no bad feelings about it. I happen to believe that a motor on a sialboat is only used for docking, navigating narrow channels, and emergencies, not for motoring 20 miles to the next destination; she doesn't. It is just not her thing, and we have both accepted the fact and we are better for it.  The point is it is ok to have something for yourself without feeling guilty because the admiral is not into it. Have you ever considered the only reason she is interested in sailing is because you are pushing her too hard? Let your wife know that it is ok if she does not want to go, but also advise her that you are not going to stop going either. <em>edited by: thekahuna, Jul 15, 2009 - 03:48 PM</em> [/quote]

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